I know this isn't the right audience for this, but oh well.
Curious, what would you do with a child who basically calls the parenting bluff and rejects punishment?
My oldest is 10 and she has extreme anxiety. She also has disruptive mood dysregulation disorder. Big words to say, when she's angry it's fight or flight. And, to make matters extra "fun", any type of parenting now brings out that anger.
So, the kid does something wrong, we try to correct it with some minor suggestions, she gets mad and lashes out (verbally or physically - my wife has bruises all over her arms from the child), and that behavior is punished, which results in harsher penalties, but there's no end game. We take away privileges and electronics, etc, which makes her angrier and it continues to escalate. Then she "punishes" us later for taking things away from her by escalating again. There's no resolution.
I'm scared for her future. While my wife and I can/will take the abuse, I know what happens when she does this to other people and it's not pretty for anyone.
Ultimately of all the things I do, I'm worst at being a parent. I'm sure there are many other people who have had this situation and solved it, but I'm at my wits end.
Curious, what would you do with a child who basically calls the parenting bluff and rejects punishment?
My oldest is 10 and she has extreme anxiety. She also has disruptive mood dysregulation disorder. Big words to say, when she's angry it's fight or flight. And, to make matters extra "fun", any type of parenting now brings out that anger.
So, the kid does something wrong, we try to correct it with some minor suggestions, she gets mad and lashes out (verbally or physically - my wife has bruises all over her arms from the child), and that behavior is punished, which results in harsher penalties, but there's no end game. We take away privileges and electronics, etc, which makes her angrier and it continues to escalate. Then she "punishes" us later for taking things away from her by escalating again. There's no resolution.
I'm scared for her future. While my wife and I can/will take the abuse, I know what happens when she does this to other people and it's not pretty for anyone.
Ultimately of all the things I do, I'm worst at being a parent. I'm sure there are many other people who have had this situation and solved it, but I'm at my wits end.
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