There's been a bevy of craziness in my life of late, and I thought I'd check in with the RJ crowd to say hello and fill you guys in. First off, I got engaged in May (Cinco de Mayo, in fact) to the most amazing woman I've ever met (if you want to know more of our story, check out our website at http://www.mywedding.com/scottandhollysittinginatree/.) The #1 reason I don't check in as frequently anymore is that I spend almost all my free time with my new fiancée. I'd like to say that I definitely miss this place, though, and I'd love to start a thread about what to expect in the future (both near and far). Additionally, I just got into PT (Physical Therapy) school, which I start in January. So the first three years of my marriage, I'm going to be in school and basically not earning a cent while my wife provides (which is way weird to me). Lastly, I was Baptized in March, so I am now a Christian (that's probably another thread in its own right). Talk about a whirlwind of activity in 2012.
I'd love to hear stories from the Bullpen about the indoctrination process of coming together with one's spouse in all aspects of life (except sex -- I'll figure that one out for myself, thanks ). I have no clue what to expect from my soon-to-be in-laws, although I know that my fiancée is much closer to her family than I am to mine and spends a plethora of time with them (whereas I spend very little time with my family overall). It's going to be an adjustment for me, and I'm curious how everyone else out there worked toward adjusting for their spouse (and knew when to push and when to give). I'm also curious about what to expect that I currently don't even have on my radar? What were some unexpected incidents that occurred in your marriages at the outset?
As a background, I come from a broken family (parents are divorced and re-married, although my dad is now likely heading towards a second divorce). I never wanted to get married in my life, in many ways because my own parents were so horrific together in my formative years. And then I met Holly. It really was like fate intervened. (Yes, I sound like I'm ridiculously smitten... and I am.) My model for having a healthy family is not tremendously strong, and I'd love to break that mold and do my best to make this the strongest marriage possible. Any and all advice would be groovy and appreciated.
I'd love to hear stories from the Bullpen about the indoctrination process of coming together with one's spouse in all aspects of life (except sex -- I'll figure that one out for myself, thanks ). I have no clue what to expect from my soon-to-be in-laws, although I know that my fiancée is much closer to her family than I am to mine and spends a plethora of time with them (whereas I spend very little time with my family overall). It's going to be an adjustment for me, and I'm curious how everyone else out there worked toward adjusting for their spouse (and knew when to push and when to give). I'm also curious about what to expect that I currently don't even have on my radar? What were some unexpected incidents that occurred in your marriages at the outset?
As a background, I come from a broken family (parents are divorced and re-married, although my dad is now likely heading towards a second divorce). I never wanted to get married in my life, in many ways because my own parents were so horrific together in my formative years. And then I met Holly. It really was like fate intervened. (Yes, I sound like I'm ridiculously smitten... and I am.) My model for having a healthy family is not tremendously strong, and I'd love to break that mold and do my best to make this the strongest marriage possible. Any and all advice would be groovy and appreciated.
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