I'm getting married in mid-September.
We've been living together for a few years already and, as such, we already have everything that we really "need".
We have a tiny little house (rented) that is already full to the brim with us, our cat, and the various things that make up our life together.
We don't need stuff like new toasters, fondue sets, irons, fine china...
What we do need is cash to pay for a honeymoon, if we are to have one. Hell, it could be cash to go towards a deposit on a house of our own some day or even just to go towards replacing our crappy car.
Among people of our generation (20s - 30s) cash is the normal gift at weddings. However, among the older generations here it is not the done thing and this has been very gently filtered back to us. They would prefer to buy us something tangible, preferably something that could be physically given to us or at worst an item from a designated wedding list.
We haven't got a wedding list for the reasons outlined above - it would just be a waste! But we still want to be respectful to our older family friends and relations. And I don't want to be in a position where anyone is made uncomfortable.
How does one say "If you're going to give us a present can you just make it old fashioned folding money?" without coming across as being, well, a bit mercenary about it?
We've been living together for a few years already and, as such, we already have everything that we really "need".
We have a tiny little house (rented) that is already full to the brim with us, our cat, and the various things that make up our life together.
We don't need stuff like new toasters, fondue sets, irons, fine china...
What we do need is cash to pay for a honeymoon, if we are to have one. Hell, it could be cash to go towards a deposit on a house of our own some day or even just to go towards replacing our crappy car.
Among people of our generation (20s - 30s) cash is the normal gift at weddings. However, among the older generations here it is not the done thing and this has been very gently filtered back to us. They would prefer to buy us something tangible, preferably something that could be physically given to us or at worst an item from a designated wedding list.
We haven't got a wedding list for the reasons outlined above - it would just be a waste! But we still want to be respectful to our older family friends and relations. And I don't want to be in a position where anyone is made uncomfortable.
How does one say "If you're going to give us a present can you just make it old fashioned folding money?" without coming across as being, well, a bit mercenary about it?
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